Hi, I’m Iman, and I’m a transformational speaker, life coach, writer and entrepreneur. I help people go from unfulfilled to living with joy, self-confidence and love. Connect with me on my site, Facebook, or Instagram.
I’m SO busy! How many times have you heard yourself say this and get even further frustrated because you know that it’s the absolute truth? If you’re anything like me, or the old me anyway, your list of things to do is ever growing and yet, your time feels like it just keeps shrinking. Fitting it all in seems near impossible. It’s not that you don’t have the heart or the ideas or even the passion to get it all done. It just feels like you’re on a hamster wheel of life where your mind is racing and overflowing with all that you want to do, but you just don’t seem to be able to keep on top of it all. It’s exhausting to even think about!
I used to wonder how anyone was writing books and living their dreams and traveling the globe, and there I was struggling to get my dry cleaning done so that I could wear that cute little dress again. What about all of the big dreams and goals and bucket lists full of everything I needed to do in this lifetime? I had no idea how I’d ever get to a place where my life felt like it was flowing and I was moving forward in my goals, but I was determined to figure it out.
I made the decision to focus on my life and to take a step back to see if I could find a way to stop feeling chaotic and start feeling powerful. I wrote a big ‘ol list of everything that I wanted to do, from the amazing to the ordinary to the downright boring and obligatory. My mind raced from jet setting, to dental appointments, to volunteering, to finally cleaning the inside of my oven and making cupcakes with my niece, like I promised months before. It felt good to get it all out, but I still had that sinking feeling in my gut that told me this was a daunting task.
Once I could see everything laid out I knew that I had to categorize things as follows: the really, really important; the pretty important; the would be nice; and, the ugghhh I don’t want to do this but it needs doing! Next, I looked at each item and picked my top three really, really important things to do and made a promise to myself that this is where I would start to focus.
After that, I looked honestly at how I was currently using my time, and I knew I had to make changes. I decided to treat my time as a currency since that is what my life is made up of, and I vowed to start spending it wisely. I looked at every time-wasting activity like internet surfing, watching television, and doing things I didn’t actually want to be doing. (You know those times where you agree to give your time to something or someone you really, really don’t want to but do it anyway? Yeah, stop doing that, and you will see how much more time you have to actually do what you want to do.) Once I found the areas where I could eliminate distractions, I realized I had much more time to focus on my goals than I thought.
As I began to practice my new way of task mastering and living with intention, I still found myself rushing through my list to try to get everything done. I came across an amazing video by my dear teacher and friend, Gabby Bernstein, in which she talked about slowing down to expand time, and it really stuck with me.
Once I deliberately slowed down and placed my intention on my goals and how I wanted to show up in the world, everything felt like it was slowing down to meet me at my speed, and I started actually knocking things off of my list. I was shocked at just how much I was able to do with my time, the same 24 hours I’d always had. I became keenly aware of my goals and my time. Every time someone asked to attend something or take on something, I asked myself if it would bring me closer to either my goals, my joy, or my peace, and if the answer was yes, I did it willingly, but if the answer was no, I released myself of the guilt of obligation and declined with love.
The truth is, this lifetime is all we have, and if we wholly and truly want to show up in a meaningful way that allows us to accomplish our dreams whilst living our full truths, then we owe it—not only to ourselves, but to the world and everyone around us—to honor our own paths and follow the beating of our hearts. I believe happiness is a birthright, and I intend to throw myself in its path every chance I get.
So, if you find yourself wondering how on earth you’re going to get it all done, first decide that you’re willing to see things differently. Next, take action and explore all the things you want to do (and need to do) in order to feel like you’re moving forward. Then be willing to change your routine and remove distractions from your life. Finally, as often as you have the opportunity, work toward your dreams and trust that when you follow your heart, you’ll always be on the right path.