The head, heart, body connection

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Something I’ve been working on lately is strengthening the connection between my head, my heart, and my body. More literally, this means that I’m working on being in a conscious state of awareness about how my mind, my feelings/soul, and my physical body are affected by what goes on in my life. It’s fascinating journey that I’m so grateful to have embarked upon.

More broadly, awareness and mindfulness are two things that I’ve been working on more intensely, since I’ve been in my coaching program this year. It was early in the course that I first became aware that mindfulness wasn’t something I was practicing all that well. For most of my life, I’ve lived with blinders on in regards to how things make me feel and what I want out of life. That lead to me not really living in the moment much or being all that aware of how my body, mind, and spirit were feeling at any given time.

What’s more is that looking back on it, I can see how I was a passive force in my own life, in many ways. For a long time, I wasn’t directly leading the charge in regards to my own life and my destiny. I had no clue what I wanted or what I was interested in so it makes sense that I, at a certain point, just stopped thinking about all those things. Essentially, for a while, I was just going through the motions in life.

But when I learned more about mindfulness and living life in an aware state, it struck a cord in me. The idea spoke to me. Over time, practicing mindfulness helped me to see that I’d been living in a state of un-blissful lack of awareness. I started to see that the root of my unhappiness and discontent in life was that I wasn’t attuned to myself. For a big portion of my adult life, I had no idea what I wanted, what I needed, or what made me happy. Once I recognized this void in myself, it helped greatly. Once I could see that the lack of awareness was the problem, I was able to better tackle the issue.

At first I focused only on the mental awareness part. It started with me paying better attention to what I was doing and how I felt. In the last year I’ve figured out what I want to do with my life, but earlier this year, I started taking ownership of that and making my decisions based on getting to that place. I finally have more of my life and my future figured out, and I’ve found so much peace in that. I take comfort in that. It gives me a base from which to operate.

Once I was better at awareness, I became acquainted with head, heart, body integration. A co-trainee in my coaching program was the first to introduce this to me and help me with realizing how the three were connected and how I could benefit from integrating them. Once I started down that path, I really noticed things looking up for me. I had taken awareness to a whole new level and it rocked!

As of now, I’ve been working on the mindfulness and the head, heart, body connection for about three months. Of course, I’m really just at the beginning of all of this. I’m still quite the newbie when it comes to practicing these things. But I have the will to succeed, and I want to be better attuned, so that all helps greatly in this equation.

I remind myself daily of mindfulness and my head, heart, body connection by having it be part of my daily writing practice. First, I check in with myself to see how I’m doing overall. That’s a great “gut check” on how I’m feeling, both mentally and physically. I also check in with each part of me – the mind, the heart, and the body – to see how each one is feeling, specifically. I always note what the answer for each is, as well. Additionally, I have a list of reminders about mindfulness and awareness in regards to how I know I feel when I’m practicing them. It’s a great way to reacquaint myself daily with the principles and how they make me feel when I’m engaged with them. Finally, I do a very short (one minute or less) meditation of some sort. These help to center and ground me.

Integrating mindfulness into my life on a meta-level like this helps me to remember that it’s important. Otherwise, I forget to be mindful. Right now I’m still very much in a “training wheels” stage, and I need these reminders. They help me greatly. They’ve helped me to start making progress on my head, heart, body connection. Ultimately, these reminders will be the tool that helps me to achieve what I want to achieve in life: living in a state of mindful awareness and being totally in tune with my body, mind, and spirit.

From time to time, I’ll provide updates on how I’m progressing with this work. I don’t have much else to report at this point other than I’ve developed a system, and I’m working on it daily. I’m still working on making mindfulness an automatic process. Being asleep at the wheel for so long is a hard habit to break, but I know that my commitment and desire to live differently will prevail in the end.

What about you? What’s your head, heart, mind connection like these days? Do tell!