What do you want?

"Knowing what you want is step one in living your ideal life." - Addie K Martin

Full disclosure: the title of this blog post haunted me for a long time. Too long! Well, except, of course, that I thought about it from the first person point of view: “what do I want?” To be honest, it took me quite a while to figure it out. Consequently, I spent many years being frustrated and feeling lost. However, once I became clear on what I wanted, things made more sense. I felt more at peace and at ease. Life just felt easier overall.

In the pursuit of a happy and content life, being able to answer the question “what do I want?” is critical. If you can already answer this clearly and succinctly, then I applaud you. You’re far ahead of many people in life. But if just by me asking that question, you get a woozy feeling your stomach and the worry starts to spread, this blog post is for you. (Also, take a few deep, calming breaths and relax. Being riled up doesn’t help anything and also siphons your effort and energy into something that doesn’t serve you.)

Let’s start by being clear: knowing what you want is step one in living your ideal life. You must know what you want in life (and work) to get what you want out of life and work. If you don’t know what you want, then you’re destined to continue floundering around, aimlessly. Take some time to figure out what you want, and you’ll be amazed at how clear things become.

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Deciding what you want isn’t complicated. If it is seeming difficult to figure out, take some time to think it through. Below is a list of some things for you to consider as you figure it all out. Take some time to write this out or to create a list of words and phrases or even draw or paint it (whatever works best for you!). Taking action like this is critical in owning your life and doing what you want to do.

Consider…

  • what’s important to you…
  • your values…
  • your deepest desires…
  • what you’d like your life to look like…
  • where you’d like to live…
  • what your ideal job would be…
  • who you’d like to have in your life on a regular basis…
  • how you’d like to feel each day…

The benefits of knowing what you want are pretty great. When you know what you want, you have a guiding vision for decisions in life. The compass of life has direction, and you can use it steer your path. Knowing what you want is also an effective decision filter. It’s so much easier to know what to say yes to and what to say no to. It’s amazing how much clarity is gained by simply knowing what you want in life.

If you still aren’t sure what you want in life, please take the time to figure it out. You’ll be well on your way to a happier and more content life just by doing so. You can also start living intentionally and with purpose, once you know what you’re working for.